Japan is known for its deep-rooted culture, high standards of politeness, and unspoken social rules. While Japanese people are generally very forgiving of foreign visitors, saying the wrong thing, even unknowingly, can be deeply offensive or awkward.
If you’re planning a trip to Japan, understanding what not to say is just as important as knowing basic Japanese phrases.
Here’s a list of things tourists should never say in Japan if they want to stay on the right side of local etiquette.
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1. “Why don’t you speak English?”
Japan isn’t an English-speaking country, and expecting locals to cater to your language is not only arrogant but offensive. Even if someone does speak English, putting them on the spot can cause embarrassment.
Better alternative: Try learning a few Japanese basics or use a translator app politely.
2. “This sushi isn’t fresh.”
Japanese people take pride in their cuisine—especially sushi. Criticizing the freshness, even jokingly, can be taken as a serious insult to the chef and their craftsmanship.
Tip: If the food isn’t to your liking, a simple “Gochisousama deshita” (Thank you for the meal) is a polite way to move on.
3. “Isn’t Japan basically like China?”
Lumping Japan together with other Asian countries shows a lack of cultural awareness. Japan has a unique history, language, and set of traditions completely distinct from China or Korea.
Tip: If you’re curious about differences, ask respectfully and show genuine interest.
4. “Your English is so good!”
Although it may sound like a compliment, it can come across as condescending or imply that you didn’t expect them to be educated.
Better approach: Simply say, “Thanks for helping me,” or “I appreciate you speaking English with me.”
5. “Why do you still bow all the time?”
Bow culture in Japan is not just habit—it’s an expression of respect, gratitude, and humility. Questioning it dismissively can feel disrespectful.
Respect the custom: Even if you’re unfamiliar, try bowing in return. It’s appreciated.
6. “That’s weird!” or “That’s so strange!”
Pointing out differences in food, fashion, or customs as “weird” sounds rude, even if unintentional. What seems odd to you might be cherished by locals.
Alternative: Use words like “unique,” “interesting,” or “different” instead.
7. “You must love anime!”
Assuming every Japanese person is into anime or manga reinforces stereotypes. While Japan is the birthplace of anime, not everyone is a fan.
Instead say: “I enjoy anime—do you like any shows or genres?” This opens respectful conversation.
8. “Wow, you’re short!” or “You look so young!”
Avoid commenting on appearance in Japan, especially physical attributes. Even what may seem like compliments can come off as awkward or inappropriate.
Cultural note: Japanese culture tends to avoid direct comments about bodies, age, or personal life.
9. “Why is everything so expensive/small?”
Complaining about prices or room sizes suggests you’re imposing your home country’s standards on Japan. Respect that things work differently here.
Travel tip: Embrace the experience rather than comparing it to back home.
10. “I don’t like Japanese food.”
Even if you’re not fond of certain dishes, it’s best to be tactful. Japanese cuisine is a national treasure and a point of pride for locals.
Instead say: “I’m still learning about Japanese food—what would you recommend?”
11. Using overly casual language (e.g., “omae” or “kisama”)
If you’re learning Japanese, be very careful with pronouns and slang. Words like “omae” (you) or “kisama” can sound aggressive or disrespectful if used incorrectly.
Language tip: Stick to polite forms like anata (you) or just use names when possible.
12. “Why are Japanese people so shy/quiet?”
Japanese communication is often indirect and respectful. Assuming it’s due to shyness or stereotyping personality traits can be offensive.
Better mindset: Appreciate the subtlety and nuance of Japanese social interactions.
Final Thoughts: How to Speak Respectfully in Japan
Japanese culture is built on the idea of wa (harmony), and avoiding conflict is a social norm. As a tourist, your goal should be to blend in respectfully, not stand out disruptively.
By avoiding these phrases, you’ll show appreciation for Japan’s culture and make your travel experience smoother and more enjoyable.
Quick Dos and Don’ts for Talking in Japan:
- ✅ Do use polite language and greetings.
- ✅ Do bow as a sign of respect.
- ✅ Do say “Arigatou gozaimasu” (thank you) and “Sumimasen” (excuse me/sorry).
- ❌ Don’t assume everyone speaks English.
- ❌ Don’t use slang or swear words—even casually.
- ❌ Don’t joke about sensitive topics like World War II or cultural traditions.
